We did it. Love is beautiful. Love is kind. And it turns out that love is patient. Twenty-year-old patient.
Exactly what we wanted. Last night we flew to Vegas, lined up for a license with four other couples, all making the same trip to the wedding capital of the world. Behind us, two men were holding hands and holding each other. In front of us, a young couple who made the three-hour drive from Victorville on their daughter’s second birthday – we all want the same thing – for the world to recognize us as partners and declare our love to the world through the ancient and almost universal symbol of marriage.
We barely got to the little white wedding chapel at midnight. They graciously stayed open late for a few minutes, let’s take pictures in a pink Cadillac convertible, obviously once used by the King himself (but if we wanted Elvis to show up, it cost extra and he was in bed).
So with the best witnesses you could imagine, a dress from an old movie and a jacket from Ben’s closet, we read our own vows in the little chapel and gave each other the rings we’ll wear for the rest of our lives. They even had Bluetooth for a (short) walk down the aisle. But in the end, it was the best possible wedding we could have imagined. One we dreamed of a long time ago and a real rendering (in the eyes of the state, Las Vegas, a pink convertible and another) in a long, long time.
When the love is real, the only thing that matters in marriage is each other and the promise we make to love, to care, to understand, to be patient, loving and kind. towards each other. We had that. And more. The best night of our lives. Thanks to the Chapel of the Little White Wedding for allowing me to use the rest room to change while Ben was changing in the men’s room.
They were right when they said, “all you need is love.” We are so grateful to have this in abundance, a wonderful new family of five amazing children, and a life we have never had more reason to look forward to. Stick around long enough and you might find the best time of your life at a 12:30 a.m. drive-in in Las Vegas in the Tunnel of Love, with your kids and the one you’ll spend an eternity with. Love is a great thing, perhaps the best of things and worth waiting for.
Ms. Jennifer Lynn Affleck